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This model works because it takes students through an accountability
process that . . .
- Promotes fairness
Enabling the examination of consequences of decisions through a series of non–pre-judgmental steps.
- Focuses on learning from mistakes
Using role reversal to conceptualize pain endured by others.
- Develops compassion and empathy
Understanding and acknowledging the impact of words and behaviors.
- Teaches the difference between intentions and perceptions
Clarifying how those on the receiving end of hurtful comments and behaviors feel.
- Achieves mutual reconciliation
Revisiting, reviewing, reflecting, and taking full responsibility.
- Respects and maintains everyone’s dignity
Recognizing accountability does not require loss of dignity while learning how to ask to be forgiven.
Note: Elementary school teachers are encouraged to modify the language to make it developmentally appropriate for their age group.